communication

In the past, I thought communication is just about telling each others' views and being able to understand and respect. But how to make the other person truly understand? How to respect when you already have your own views towards the same thing? How to come to the same conclusion when we are standing on different grounds and taking a different views? and it's not just about "differences", as "differences" implies we are holding different things, but on the same level. What if the things we are holding actually have priority, or even right and wrong? Taking either ones' views just won't work in this case.

Observing/Listening is not knowing. Knowing is not understanding. Understanding is not experiencing. Experiencing is not practicing. Putting it into practice doesn't mean wanting to do.

A cup full of water just can't take things in anymore. Adding some colour into a glass of ink just won't see the original colour we add. Humble ourselves is not denying and dispising. However, that's a delicate balance. And I have to say, sometimes I fail to do that. Seeing/knowing everything through God's eyes is like replacing our colourful glasses with transparent one. We all have our sides, our views, developed from our background and culture. So in the end, communication is not just about knowing both sides and fulfill each others' needs or expectations, but
to seek our Lord's wills, to seek what our God wants from both side.

Communication is not about me, not about you, but about God, about humbleness, about love.
What is love then?
愛是恆久忍耐, 又有恩慈.
愛是不嫉妒. 愛是不自誇,不張狂,不做害羞的事.
不求自己的益處, 不輕易發怒.
不計算人家的惡,不喜歡不義, 只喜歡真理.
凡事包容, 凡事相信, 凡事忍耐.
愛是永不止息.
We don't need to be "taught" to love, but at the same time, we are all learning how to love.
We are not perfect, neither is our love. But how blessed we are! Our God, our source of perfect love, source of strength and hope is ALWAYS there, ALWAYS faithful even when we are not faithful to Him.

No matter how hard is communication, or anything in our lives, there's nothing bigger than God; nothing is bigger than His cross----the ultimate expression of His love.